Your Opinion Counts - Vote for the
next teleseminar subject!
Going to the Dogs
I was struggling to convey the concept
of the "Relationship Straw" in a training
session to staff at Guide Dogs for the Blind in San
Rafael. You may recall the story from the August newsletter.
If not, click on "Relationship
Straw" to see the video clip.
About half of the workshop attendees
were blind or visually impaired and I noticed one member
patting his dog affectionately. I asked the group, "How
big is your relationship straw with your dog?" The
room lit up with words like "fire hose," and "aqueduct." Arms
expanded to show how big their "relationship straw" was
with their canine partners.
We all have varying degrees of bandwidth
available when we are in relationship to another being.
Because our dogs are outside of the normal filters,
barriers and relationship scars that we carry from
birth, we still can be fully engaged with a puppy without
psychoanalysis!
This is the important part: If we retain
the power of absolute engagement with any being, we
retain that power to be fully engaged with our family,
friends and co-workers.
The problem we face is that we use one
part of our brain for our “dogs” and another
part of our brain for our human companions. Neurological
clusters develop with repeated use during emotional
experiences in our brains over time. Once a cluster
is formed, it becomes very efficient by automating
behavior. If part of the cluster is triggered, BOOM,
the whole cluster fires off messages across the whole
range of synaptic connections creating behaviors that
we describe at “habit.”
If we were scarred by a parent, we may
view all our relationships through a very narrow straw.
We can enlarge the straw through therapy, or we can
pick up a different straw we reserve for puppies!
The Journey to Alpha Presencesm is
all about short circuiting our neurological habits
and creating a whole new neurological brain cluster
that can be fully engaged in personal and business
relationships. How do we make that short circuit?
With emotional glue. Memories and neurological
clusters are made permanent with emotional experience.
This is why we can still remember the time we were
embarrassed in the third grade and can’t remember
what we did last week. If we experience a positive
emotion while being fully engaged with another person
in a safe environment, we cement the new experience
and behavior in place.
Check out our personal and corporate
programs
Teleseminar Report - No Whining!
On October 20 and 27 we ran teleseminar
sessions for our clients interested in learning about
their whining, complaining, moaning and groaning.
In the first session we listened to the
participants tell us their favorite "whines." We
then listed the benefits of complaining, and finally,
the costs.
Homework was assigned to increase the
awareness of our process and then, the group was asked
to just stop whining for the remainder of the week
and to note the results in a journal.
The final session allowed the participants
to share with each other what they had learned followed
with a guided visualization. Then we looked at what
was behind our whining and developed a more creative
alternative!
You (or a whiney loved one) can still
participate! I will let you know when the CD and workbook
are ready to ship.
Your Opinion Counts - Vote for
the next teleseminar subject!
I have created a series of teleseminars
which are powered by the adventure of your own experience.
Each subject will consist of two teleseminars, one
week apart. Each topic will give you at tool for your
journey to Alpha Presence(sm). We will send out homework
and support material prior to the first meeting. The
first session will engage and frame the issue. Each
participant then has a week to expand awareness, experiment
and explore new behaviors. Then a wrap up meeting will
give us the opportunity to share what we have learned
and give us a process to cement in new behaviors that
we prefer.
Whether or not you can join us, please
vote on what subjects you prefer for the first series.
